How To Use Lube - A Complete Guide
Lube is so underrated. We believe there should be a bottle of lube on every bedside table in the world. It can totally transform sex in so many exciting ways, and it’s about time people realised that.
In this guide you’ll find everything you could ever need to know about lube. From how to apply it, to the best kinds for different types of sex, read on for our top tips on all things lubrication:
Why use lube?
This one’s easy: because lube makes sex incredible.
There’s this myth flying around that if the woman needs lube because she isn’t getting wet, then something is wrong with her. Nothing could be further from the truth. Dryness is just a natural thing that happens with age, at certain times of the month, because of certain medications, or even stress. Of course, lube is essential if dryness is an issue, but there’s nothing wrong with it, so let’s drop the stigma.
For anyone who suffers from sensitive skin, lube helps to reduce friction so you can focus on what feels good. It’s the miracle sex essential that everyone should be using.
How to apply lube
Even at room temperature in a warm and cosy bedroom, lube can be cold. Rather than just squirting it straight on to the required area (which will probably be a bit of a shock) it’s best to squeeze some on to your hands first.
Start with a small amount on your fingers and apply where it’s needed, adding as much as you like. To bring it up to body temperature, rub it between your hands for a bit of heat before you get down to it.
Applying lube isn’t just a one-time thing, either. Reapply as you go along to keep things running nice and smoothly. When you’re with a partner instead of flying solo, it doesn’t need to be an interruption – work it into foreplay for seamless sexual experience.
Using lube for vaginal sex
When it comes to sex, the wetter the better. Lube instantly increases your sensitivity and arousal, while stimulating your nerve endings all the way to multiple orgasms.
Don’t believe us? Grab a tube and try for yourself.
For an incredibly intense experience, go for a sensation lube. Heat Wave and Cool Tingle varieties are perfect for solo play or taking foreplay from 0-100, with tingly sensations guaranteed to drive you wild.
Using lube with condoms? Our top tip is to try adding a drop inside the condom to increase sensations. A little bit is ok and can feel fantastic (see a warming or tingling variety above), but too much could mean slipping out, and nobody wants that.
Using lube for anal sex
If you want to experiment with a little anal play, then lube is your new best friend. Unfortunately, this area doesn’t create its own lubricant, so it absolutely needs a helping hand. We can’t stress this enough – even if you think you’ve got enough lube, add more just to be safe.
Lube helps to heighten the sensitivity of your backdoor. Thanks to hundreds of nerve endings, there are plenty of pleasures to anal. There are specific anal lubricants designed make the muscle relax, which is particularly helpful for beginners. Lube also provides a cushioning effect, reducing the risk of any cuts or tears.
Thicker lubes are better for anal because they won’t dry out as quickly. Steer clear of tingling or numbing varieties – you want to be as aware as possible during anal play as otherwise you might not notice if something damaging is happening.
Using lube for oral sex
We know what you’re thinking: Oral is already pretty incredible, so why do I need to add lube? We hear you. And we’re not trying to fix something that isn’t broken, we’re just making it even better.
It’s true that oral sex can sometimes come with its own dryness and friction problems, just like any other kind of sex. But either way, lube is a great way to enhance the pleasure.
You might want to use lube a little more sparingly during oral sex, as your mouth is already ready to go. Most lubes out there are safe to swallow (just be sure to check the product description first!), but too much of a mouthful may be a bit unpleasant.
If you’re concerned about taste, don’t worry. Our flavoured lubes are so good you’ll want to lick them straight out of the tube, giving an intense experience for the lucky receiver and making any oral endeavour a truly tasty treat for the giver.
Going down on your guy? Add your favourite flavour to your lips for a totally different experience, or add lashings of lube to your hands for one smooth ride.
Going down on a girl? Apply a few drops to the clit to make those 8,000 nerve endings tingle.
Using lube for masturbation
Lube should be an essential ingredient of any serious alone time. If you’re playing with toys, make sure you use the right kind of lube (but more on this later).
For the girls...
To add a whole other level to your masturbation, apply a couple of drops to your fingers and slowly massage it into your clit and labia. It’ll heighten sensitivity straight away, and you’ll definitely notice the difference. If you’ve chosen to test drive a tingling or warming variety, it’ll send sensations throughout your body.
Want to hit the g-spot? Apply a little more lube to your fingers and use it to stimulate the area for a more intense feeling.
Need some tips on sensual solo play? Read our beginner’s guide to female masturbation.
For the boys…
Lucky for the boys, it’s a little easier for you. Spread a sizeable amount of lube on your palm and fingers, and get to work. Add more if you need it and just lay back and enjoy. It really is that simple.
How to choose lube
Now you know what lube can do for your sex life, it’s time to pick your perfect partner-in-crime. The best way to decide is to think about how you’re going to use it.
There’s so much choice when it comes to lube – dozens of different categories for you to browse. It can be a little overwhelming if you’ve never used lube before, but once you know the difference, it’s hard to go wrong.
First things first, there are two main kinds of lube: liquid and gel.
Water-based lubricant is one of the most popular on the market, probably because of its many benefits. It won’t damage your toys, it doesn’t stain your bedsheets and can be used safely with condoms. On the downside, water-based lube is absorbed quickly into the skin, making it not ideal for long sessions unless you’re OK with re-applying regularly.
DO use for: Vaginal sex, oral sex, sex toys, male masturbation.
Probably the second most popular lube on the market, silicone lube combines the best of both worlds. It has the smooth and easy ride of water-based with the highly arousing texture of oil. It’s a little more expensive than its water-based sibling, but it lasts a lot longer, so you don’t have to apply as regularly or use as much. Did you know it’s waterproof too? Another excuse to hop in the shower together.
While silicone lube won’t damage condoms, it can severely damage your sex toys if they’re made of silicone. Stick to water-based if you’re playing with a battery-operated friend.
Ready to get wet?
Stock up on lube for the best ride of your life. Our full range of lubes has all different kinds of flavours and sensations, featuring our very own concoctions as well as some of our favourite brands.
You’ll never be left high and dry again.